短语讲解：

1. Instead of the direct command, "Stop eating with your hands," you could say, "It is important that you eat with a fork."

instead of （用…） 代替…， （是…）而不是…
例句：A spirit lamp burns spirits instead of oil.
酒精灯里点的不是油而是酒精。

2. Daffy Duck meant to say, "I demand that you shoot him now" – him referring to Bugs Bunny. Listen again.

refer to 参考; 指的是; 涉及; 适用于
例句：Writers often refer to a dictionary.
作家时常参考字典。