I would like particularly to talk about the need to develop a new style of aging in our new society.
Young people in this country have been accused of not caring for their parents， the way they would have in the old country. And this is true， but it is also true that old people have been influenced by an American ideal of independence and autonomy. So， we live alone， perhaps on the verge of starvation， in time without friends， but we are independent. This standard American style has been forced on every ethnic group， although there are many groups for whom the ideal is not practical. It is a poor ideal and pursuing it does a great deal of harm.
This ideal of independence also contains a tremendous amount of unselfishness. In talking to today's young mothers， I have asked them what kind of grandmothers they think they are going to be. I hear devoted， loving mother say that when they are through raising their children， they have no intention of becoming grandmothers. They were astonished to hear that in most of the world throughout most of its history， families have been three- or four-generation families， living under the same roof. We have over-emphasized the small family unit - father， mother， small children. We think it is wonderful if Grandma and Grandpa， if they're still alive， can live alone.
We have reached the point where we think the only thing we can do for our children is to stay out of their way. And the only thing we can do for our daughter-in-law is to see as little of her as possible. Old people's nursing homes， even the best run， are filled with older people who believe the only thing they can do for their children is to look cheerful when they come to visit. So， in the end， older people have to devote all their energies to 'not being a burden.'
Were beginning to see what a tremendous price we've paid for our emphasis on independence and autonomy. We've isolated old people and we've cut off the children from their grandparents. One of the reasons we have as bad a generation gap today as we do is that grandparents have stepped out. Young people are being deprived of the thing they need most - perspective， to know why their parents behave so peculiarly and why their grandparents say the things they do.
Q22 What have young Americans been accused of?
Q23 What does the speaker say about old people in the United States?
Q24 What is astonishing to the young mothers interviewed by the speaker?
O25 What does the speaker say older people tried their best to do?